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  Question for the men

  by SafeAtHome in

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  i'd like the input of the guys, maybe some of you who have been married or in a serious relationship for some time.

  if you were having an affair and your wife found out about it, would you want her to tell you she knew?

  would it serve a purpose, that is, make you end the affair, or on the other hand, push it over the edge to be with the other person?

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  I have been in this position. I was having an "intense emotional affair" with someone who was my friend from a work situation and also knew my wife at the time. This "affair" never moved to the physical level, but at the time that was not terribly relevant to my wife. Our marriage did not end over this, but it did point out that there were issues which were not being addressed by either of us, and 18 months later my own restlessness brought our marriage to an end.

  I am now in a long term committed relationship and still have a friendship with my exwife. I believe we are constantly evolving and we don't always grow at the same rates. In my own case I was opperating under the illusion that I could overcome feelings I eventually could no longer deny.

  Every individual and situation is different, so I guess you need to weigh all the possibilities you can imagine and determine how you would handle each of them and then make a plan of action.

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  do you have more suits than underwear?????

  by oompa in

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  god i have a ton of them collecting dust in my closet....42 long if you need one....i told my dad/elder to help himself as i have no use for them anymore.....damm i hated dressing up three times a flukkin week........how did i do that for so long??

  ?......geeze......oompa.

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  After escaping the organization in 1981 I went on to several management postitions where suits and ties were required. Then in 1990 I started a business of my own and was able to write my own policies and the dress code was the first thing to go. Now I have one suit which has not seen the light of day for about 15 years. So put me in the "more underwear" column.

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  One in every congregation

  by WTWizard in

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  it seems that there is always one self-righteous idiot in every congregation that is like this:.

  first, the person will find every opportunity to see how much wealth people have.

  this wealth is in either time or material things.

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  OMG! You just described my Aunt Martha. She was always the most faithful witness in the entire circuit, always ready with unsolicited advice on any subject you may wish to bring up. Though she never had any children of her own she was the resident authority on child rearing, of course the real parents were always doing it wrong.

  She also had a Neanderthal husband who managed to reach the position of elder with her guidance. They made sure that if anyone committed the slightest foible, the entire congregation knew about it before morning.

  She was far too busy running the lives of several families to regular pioneer, but she did manage to temporary pioneer several months a year for which she was singled out for special recognition frequently. No one could make more callous and unkind comments to anyone within earshot, but if confronted with her bitchy attitude her feelings were always very hurt.

  They are everywhere apparently.

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  Funny but true Flow Chart

  by 30 years out in

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  i found this flow chart online and though it is funny there is a tremendous amount of truth to it.

  i had not seen this one before.

  enjoy:.

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  The image is fighting back so I'll get back to you later, sorry for the false alarm.
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  Funny but true Flow Chart

  by 30 years out in

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  Everyone I apologize for the false advertising. The image is not cooperating, I'll get back to you. Talk amongst yourselves.
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  Funny but true Flow Chart

  by 30 years out in

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  i found this flow chart online and though it is funny there is a tremendous amount of truth to it.

  i had not seen this one before.

  enjoy:.

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  Sorry I'm still working on it.

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  Funny but true Flow Chart

  by 30 years out in

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  I found this online and though it is funny there is a tremendous amount of truth to it. Enjoy:
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  Funny but true Flow Chart

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  Funny but true Flow Chart

  by 30 years out in

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  i found this flow chart online and though it is funny there is a tremendous amount of truth to it.

  i had not seen this one before.

  enjoy:.

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  I found this flow chart online and though it is funny there is a tremendous amount of truth to it. I had not seen this one before. Enjoy:
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  could your son be gay???

  by searchfothetruth in

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  how would you react if doctors come up with a test that could determine if your son would turn out to be gay when he grows up?

  how would you react?

  i personally, having two young sons myself, would not want to know.

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  After reading some of the responses to this thread I am struck by the fact that even ex-jw's need to label everything and find ways to feel superior to others. Oh and if it defies labeling then the demons have something to do with it.

  As a Gay man I can unequivocally state that most of us are born this way. I knew from about age 8 that I was much more attracted to the male form than the female, but because I could never let anyone know that I went on to marry women twice. The feelings were always there and I struggled for many years with hiding my true self. Finally at age 40 I was divorced from my second wife and decided I was not going to hide anymore.

  I have now been in a happy Gay relationship for 15 years and would never go back.This move cost me the rest of my family who had not already shunned me after being disfellowshipped in the early 80's. I once asked my brother: "How does my abject misery enhance your life?". I have yet to hear his answer.

  Rather than seeking to label everything and everyone, and rather than finding ways to hate or express your "righteous indignation" try getting rid of the last of the JW residue and open your eyes. We are witty and talented and if you aren't careful you just might learn something.

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